He was up at 6:40. Nice and quiet. Downstairs he lay in the sun on the couch for a bit before asking for peanut butter toast. He had two slices and watched Max and Ruby. We got going, and had a good conversation reviewing all the sense beyond the basic 5. We got going at 7:40. The garbage truck pulled up as we left and the guy said “Boker tov!’ to us. We watched them for our block, then got going on our lovely walk to school. He ate the pack of gummy bears along the way and compared them to the gummy worms he’s had in the past.
He settled down at the clay table and decided to make a machine. I had told him I was going to work, and I talked to Anna and she said it was a good time to try me leaving. He, of course, did not react well to learning that I was going to return the library books and work in the library. At one point he escaped from me and started running to the library on his own. I caught him, then he, Anna, and I sat on the bench and talked. He calmed down a bit, enough to talk, but was still quite upset. He did a lot of talking, which was good as he could talk through his feelings. Highlights: “What if something happens to me?” “What if I don’t get any food?” “But I have fun with you!” “But it’s going to be so much fun!” (Going to the library, that is) “Why aren’t you holding me tight?”
I went to the library, and within 3 minutes Maaian called to tell me that he had already stopped screaming and was sitting with Anna outside, still screaming, but having a conversation. And while I was on the phone Sheri, the elementary principal, came to check to make sure that I was doing okay. Maaian called a couple minutes later, after I had texted asking if I should stay away longer than 9, and suggested I just go home. felt that was a bit much, so told her that I’d stay at school and come back for lunch unless they called me to come back earlier. I had a feeling that he’d be aware enough to know that we had said I’d be coming back and start to get upset at some point when I wasn’t. Also, my lunch and snacks and backpack were still down there, so I had to get them somehow.
Maaian called back at 9:20 saying he was still doing well, but that he is really logical and kept remembering that I had said I’d be back soon. exactly what I thought would happen. So Anna told him I’d be back at snack time. Maaian suggested I then take him home for the rest of the day. I didn’t really get the logic of that, but went along with it. We’d be back at 3:20 to meet with them.
I went back at 9:45. He was sitting at the clay table with Anna and Nikolas, playing with clay. Anna had told us about a book of machines and things made out of wood. They had used that as inspiration and were making a bridge over a stream. Nikolas had made a river otter in their stream and Anna had made some fish. They explained it to me and then I let them keep engineering their bridge. I heard her say “okie dokie” and he liked it: “I like okie dokie!” They found a black hair and joked about hair and wondered whose it was. They went and looked at the photos to decide whose it might be. He decided it could be Omri’s. He was laughing hysterically as they joked about it and ended up talking about how they needed to interview people to figure out who it came from. Hector suggested that someone had snuck in and put it in the clay intentionally. I would later compare that idea to August’s idea that David was sneaking into our house and chewing gum. Anna suggested they keep the stream scene intact and he could find materials for a bridge and brings them: “What if it has sharp edges?” When Anna didn’t quite understand him he rephrased it: “Would you allow it if it has sharp edges?”
They talked about the water cooler and how there was a red one for hot but it didn’t work. He said maybe it was to trick kids. He then told her how all of his rockets, etc. are invisible to trick people since we don’t think they’re real but they actually are. Anna talked about how they put the scissors up high to keep them safe “because we love all the kids.” August said “And me? Yeah!”
August told her that he makes up words at home: “I have a fair amount of names.” He then went on a long explanation of ‘Flubong’, although she probably lost the thread to how it related to how he makes up words since he didn’t tell it was called flubong for a few minutes. He then told her about the Untouchifafier.
We didn’t end up leaving until 10:20, after he decided not to go to music class. As we walked he asked “Was it amazing I only got sad a couple times?” We went to the library and he was excited about checking out books. We found a Jack Perlutsky book of poems called What a Day at School it Was! (Seemed appropriate), The 78-Story Treehouse, and Magic Treehouse #16. We went and sat in the bean bags and he said “I can’t wait to read that book.” We read the full poetry book and he did a lot of laughing in it and asked a lot of questions. He then wanted The 78-Story Treehouse and started singing a “78 has so much stuff to see” song. We read a chapter of it before he got hungry.
We left 11:20 and had a snack – za’atar bread and spaghetti and Cheerios. Je was asking me about “The space station things” that he sees on houses and I figured out he meant satellite dishes. We talked about how they worked. we had left his water bottle at the preschool, so we went back there and grabbed it. While we were there Marion grabbed the computer and showed us that the baby kestrals had hatched.
We left the school at 11:50. He was okay with leaving the bike in the bike rack. He said it would be safe there. A big difference from when he was afraid to let it out of his sight at parks. We drove down to the Ir Yamin mall. We were looking for a swimsuit for me and a baseball hat for him. We found me a swimsuit at Fox. He chose a red one because he said “It looks like lava.” I agreed on it and tried it on. In the changing room he really examined and styled his hair in the mirror. We bought it, the went and got a smoothie at Rebar. He chose the FreeBerry because it had cinnamon in it.
He started telling me about when I was gone: “…did morning meeting. Well, I didn’t really listen or anything.” He lay down on the floor a few times and slept. Anna would later talk about how this was a strategy that he used to calm down. I would also find out, between him and her, that she had helped him go to the bathroom over in the PKA bathroom and they had gone for a walk to the garden and looked over to see the building that I was in. We were done at 1. He squeezed the styrofoam cup with his hand after I asked him to. We talked about a consequence and he calmed down, etc. I told him to “Keep that in your head” when thinking about impulses. But as we were walking away he said “I won’t keep that in my head. Throw it away in my head.”
We looked at a few shops for a baseball cap for him. Not a lot of stores with kids hats. He started singing Bjork’s “Earth Intruders” and then wanted to play “Let’s destroy the Earth!” So we pretended to blast things as we went through a store. He tried on a couple hats in one store. he really liked the pink baseball hat, but both were tight on him already and wouldn’t last long. And I didn’t like the pink.
We left at 1:25. We listened to “Earth Intruders” and then David Byrne. He fell asleep just before home, at 1:43. I was getting him out just three minutes later, but then he was falling back to sleep on the couch. It was 1:58 by the time he was fully awake and talking. We made some water drink and shared it, and he had some peanut butter sandwich. He kept coughing out bites today. In part it seemed to be because he just kept talking and would forget to swallow. He talked about his trip to PKC and the nature reserve yesterday and asked “How in the world did they let us go to another class?”
We drove back to school after getting swimsuits and finding his towel. As
we walked from the car he told me “I just finished a machine I’ve been working on all my life. The EVERYTHING MACHINE! It allows you to do everything at once.”
Outside the library I saw Shay sitting in his cab 13839. The first time we’ve spotted him outside our street, and it is the day after he moved out. It was just at 3 o’clock and he was waiting to pick someone up. Don’t think he saw us.
We first went to Carly’s classroom, then we all walked over the preschool. He had a lot of fun showing Carly around the room and showing her the teacups. I took him to the bathroom, then we went up to the meeting. He almost played with the blocks on his own outside the office, but didn’t like the door closed. he chose to watch Sarah and Duck on the floor using his headphones. The meeting went okay – we at least have a plan for the week and know where everyone stands. But our big takeaway was that Maaian, the preschool director, thinks that 40 minutes of volunteering a week is a lot/adequate. As Carly pointed out, that sounds like any public school anywhere and isn’t consistent with what she had told us in email, in person, and is in their preschool handbook and philosophy, which talks about “daily basis” and “as much as the parent’s schedule allows” etc. Big disconnect.
For the last few minutes, after 3 or 4 Sarah and Ducks, Carly went out with August and they build with the blocks. August showed me what the had made when I came out.
Carly went to do some work and August and I went to the pool. He was mainly excited about the towel from Oma: “I’m lucky I have this towel.” In the pool he at first wasn’t impressed that I had forgotten the floaties. But I told him I didn’t mean to bring them. I carried him in the pool a bit and he asked his worried questions. After a few minutes he went over to the steps and played there in the water, mainly splashing water out to be filtered, and I did some swimming.
We got to Carly’s classroom at 5. He had some more za’atar bread. More spitting out and talking to him about swallowing more often. Up to spit up #6. He told Carly “I took your students castle with my untouchifier.” We left at 5:25.
At home he had cauliflower and potatoes for dinner outside. There were a couple more bites spit out. We then shared a pineapple yougurt. They played outside and I did dishes. Carly took him up to a bath. I came up after awhile and he was splashing bubbles outside the bath: “It’s like bubble town but outside the bath!” He asked me “What’s an artifact?” Also, one of his new words is ‘rare’ and he used it several times today.
Downstairs he had yet another invention today: magic plant that only needs air. He asked me (of this and the everything machine): “Do you consider those to be my two greatest inventions in my life?” We talked about some of his other inventions, like his Mooka Mook language. He decided “Enshumgedorflug is the best, best, best, best one.” And he said “English is kind of a crazy language. Why?” We talked about that, and I mentioned loan words, like hummus. He said “Speaking of hummus, can I have some?” We had crackers and hummus. I was surprised with how much hummus he ate.
I told him to tell Carly about his everything machine and he sold it to her: “The everything machine. It does everything ever invented all at once!” He then asked me “Dada, when you do projects do you get to keep them?” he was talking about his stream and bridge project at school and wondering if he could keep it. I said he probably could. A couple times today he pretended to be Candy and asked me “Can you make my name Candy and call me Candy?” We then had a discussion of ‘fair’ “Can you give me an example?” He talked about the helpers in yoga and said “But I never get to be a helper!” He talked to Carly about being her helped and we reminded him about all the things he helps with, like watering and planting (they had transplanted a tomato plant when they were outside).
Carly took him up. Left them 8:30. He told her something like “I want to tell you something that really happened. Dada left me.” When she asked him more about his feelings though he talked about how he had eaten an orange peel at the kindergarten, then had eaten the kindergarteners. Me up after 8:50 to sing songs. He was eventually ready for Carly. I got her, and he was asleep about 9:30.
While I was gone:


During our meeting:
Cozy quick-drying towel:


